How can a guy guard himself from ever sexually ‘crossing the line’ with a woman who isn’t his wife?
Big Time Boundaries
Proverbs 7 describes a man who gets persuaded by a married woman to go back to her place for the night. The result? A few minutes of sinful pleasure and a lifetime of regret. “He followed her at once, like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap, awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart. He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life” (vs. 22-23).
He got seduced.
He went with it.
It ended bad. Real bad. “For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims. Her house is the road to the grave. He bedroom is the den of death” (vs. 26-27).
How does one keep from letting this happen? How can a guy keep from ‘getting with’ a woman who isn’t his wife? How can a guy keep himself from being seduced to ‘sinful pleasures’ such as pornography or ‘one night stands’ or ‘inappropriate texting or social media interactions?
Big Time Boundaries
How the Proverbs 7 escapade started? “I saw some naive young men, and one in particular who lacked common sense. He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman, strolling down the path by her house. It was at twilight, in the evening, as deep darkness fell. The woman approached him. . . ” (vs. 7-10a).
Zero common sense.
Hanging out close to where she was.
In the evening.
Had he not gone out at night in close proximity to her – he would have saved himself a lifetime of regret. He had ZERO boundaries. Had he told himself, “No going out at night alone in the direction of this woman’s house,” (Big Time Boundary) he would have been spared a lot of heartache. But he didn’t.
Where is that “street near the house of an immoral woman” for you?
Pornography at a certain time of day or evening?
An office down the hall?
Texting on your phone?
A business establishment you find yourself going to more and more?
Identify where you have “lacked common sense” and set up some Big Time Boundaries. Be radical with it. No baby stuff here. Be serious. Be ruthless. Be extreme. No boundary is too big. Seriously, it’s not (see what Jesus said here).
Do whatever you have to do to not “let your hearts stray toward her.” And “don’t wander down her wayward path” (v. 25).
What is a Big Time Boundary you can set for yourself immediately?