Top 5 Books on Marriage

I don’t know about where you live, but where I be stayin’ it is HOT!!

The first Friday in June is upon us and the heat has officially arrived. Unknown-5

Speaking of heat, I am preaching on marriage this weekend (see what I did there?). Last Sunday I preached on the WHY of marriage. Actually, to be more precise, I tried to answer the question of WHY God designed marriage between male and female. Not THAT He did – we all know that from Genesis 2. But WHY He did it that way.

THIS Sunday, I am going to try to tackle the HOW of biblical marriage. It’s one thing to know WHY. It’s another to know HOW.

Why do I tell you all this here?

The more I have thought about marriage and the preparation I’ve put into Sunday’s message, the more I think of things that would be good to say. Helpful things. Biblical things. God things.

I’m guessing, however, that you don’t want to sit and listen to me preach until about 2 pm. Heck, I don’t want to listen to me preach until 2 pm. That would cut into my Sunday nap time.

So, what to do with all the extra thoughts and such about marriage that I think would help all of us?

I am going to recommend 5 of my favorite marriage books and encourage you to get ’em, read ’em, and apply ’em.

Want to turn up the heat (you can interpret that any way you choose)?

Here are my top 5 marriage book recommendations . . .


#1. Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas

Starting with the discovery that the goal of marriage goes beyond personal happiness, writer and speaker Gary Thomas invites readers to see how God can use marriage as a discipline and a motivation to love Him more and reflect more of the character of His Son.”


#2. Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerich

A wife has one driving need—to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need—to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.
Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the Love and Respect message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other. What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.”
I haven’t read the one for women only. . .
The titles and subtitles should be enough for you to know what each book is about. ORDER THEM! You’ll be glad you did.

Marriage, according to Scripture, will always involve two flawed people living with each other in a fallen world. Yet, in pastor Paul Tripp’s professional experience, the majority of couples enter marriage with unrealistic expectations, leaving them unprepared for the day-to-day realities of married life.

This unique book introduces a biblical and practical approach to those realities that is rooted in God’s faithfulness and Scripture’s teaching on sin and grace. ‘Spouses need to be reconciled to each other and to God on a daily basis,’ Tripp declares. ‘Since we’re always sinners married to sinners, reconciliation isn’t just the right response in moments of failure. It must be the lifestyle of any healthy marriage.’

What Did You Expect? presents six practical commitments that give shape and momentum to such a lifestyle. These commitments, which include honestly facing sin, weakness, and failure; willingness to change; and embodying Christ’s love, will equip couples to develop a thriving, grace-based marriage in all circumstances and seasons of their relationship.


Unknown-3#5. The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Tim Keller

Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.

Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.


These are some I would recommend. What about you? What do you recommend and, why?


One thought on “Top 5 Books on Marriage

  1. As someone who has been married 43 years, I would like to add my endorsement of your #1 selection, Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. There is more fresh insight in that book than I’ve found in a long time. I led a group of young wives through it last summer, and they stayed fully engaged throughout the study.

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